How To Approach Someone On An Online Dating Site

One of the great things about online dating is that it is much easier to approach people as there is no chance of a drink being thrown in your face, or the mortification of being rejected in public. The worst thing that can happen if you contact someone online is that you are ignored which can be easily brushed off.

Some people (especially women) sit at the computer simply waiting for men to message them, however I think that with so little to lose and so much to gain, if you find someone’s profile attractive then take the plunge and see if you are in with a chance! Like in the real world however, you must approach people in the right way. Sleazy one liners or confusing jokes don’t normally work at a bar so why would they work online?

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There’s Something Between Us

Meeting new people is scary. There it is. I said it. You know it. It’s one of those that most of us accept, but none of us acknowledge.

I think that is why so many of us have become more comfortable online dating; it offers a sense of security and status control. The unfortunate informality, and often physical detachment, in the technology of dating sites can cause serious misapprehensions, and unguided expectations. The separation between the people attempting to date seems much greater than air.

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10 Things That You Shouldn’t Say Online

Online dating is a forum for people to browse, chat, flirt and get to know each other. If you think that people are fickle in real life dating then I’ve got news for you. The online dating game is ten times more conceited. With no physical chemistry or any personal connection to you, many people will be quick to dismiss you if you make one wrong comment.

Without being able to use facial expressions or body language, what you type is critical to giving off the right impression. Remember that things that may come out humorous or sexy in real life, can sound stupid and sleazy through chat messenger or email. So here are the 10 things that you should never say to someone that you are trying to get to know online……

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Should I Meet Up With My Online Crush?

Once you have passed the stages of emailing, text flirting and phone conversations there is only one option left to complete the online dating experience….Yes you guessed it….you can now meet in REAL LIFE. This can be incredibly nerve wracking, especially if you have been chatting to someone online for a while. You will both have high hopes, expectations and fears that there won’t be a connection when you are actually in the same room. 

The best aspect of meeting someone that you have already chatted to online, is that you already know that you get on well. You have probably noticed that you have a similar sense of humor and maybe even have the same interests. You may actually feel that you know this person quite well, and online conversations may have become really personal. Having a real life encounter however will still be out of your comfort zone.

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Free Dating Sites vs Paid Dating Sites

Every online dating site will all promise that the love of your life is waiting for you if you sign up with them, but do you have more chance of finding your soulmate if you choose a paid dating site over a free one? Well firstly be aware that nothing in life comes for free.

A lot of the supposedly free dating sites are very restrictive with who you can contact (often no one) and to actually talk to anyone you must pay a fee. As the sites are free, they are swarming with scammers, including mail order brides and viral advertisements. You’ll also find a lot of empty profiles as well. You can also expect an array of delightfully irritating adverts popping up on the site itself, as this is how they make most of their revenue.

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How Can I Transfer My Online Romance To The Phone?

So you’ve been chatting to someone online for a while. Your heart flutters when their name appears online and you have been getting on great. However transferring your text chat conversations to actual over the phone communication can be completely nerve racking, yet potentially the start of the next stage of your online dating relationship.

You will have both become used to communicating online as it is safe and protected from any of the natural blips that occur in the real world. There is only a few ways you can humiliate yourself if you can think it over before you type, without seeing or hearing the other persons’ natural reactions! You may have even become a little TOO comfortable with talking online.

The phone is far more intimate. What if you run out of conversation? Will they laugh at your jokes? What if there are awkward overlaps? Remember that despite the nerves and perils, real life relationships are much more exciting, and talking over the phone is the first step.

Girl on Cell Phone

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What Are You Really Looking For Online?

If you are considering dipping your toe into the ocean of online dating sites, then you really need to be aware of what you are looking for. With hundreds of online dating sites each advertising special deals and offers, it can be somewhat daunting to know what you are even looking for! I have had my fair share of online dating encounters over the last few years, some brilliant and some dreadful but the main piece of advice that I could give you is to put yourself into the situation that you want to be in.

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How Do I Create An Appealing Online Profile?

The profile that you create on an online dating site is essentially an advertisement for yourself. It is your one and only chance to project yourself in the way that you want, and to attract the kind of people that you are looking for. The importance of your personal profile cannot be underestimated and if you do it well then it could determine the difference between you meeting the love of your life or eating meals alone in front of the TV for the rest of your days.

Firstly before writing anything, remember that the purpose of meeting people online is (usually) to eventually meet them in the real world. Therefore you need to give a realistic impression of yourself so that the person does not get the wrong idea of who you are. It can be all too tempting to exaggerate and elaborate when creating your online alter ego, ‘I was a first league footballer’ when in fact you haven’t played since 4th grade.

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Is Online Dating Really Safe?

Nowadays people shop, do their banking and make friends online, so it is only natural that people are now finding their soul mates online as well. There are some great dating sites around where genuine and sincere people are looking for a relationship just like you. Millions of people find love online every year, and as long as you take the necessary measures, there is no reason why you can’t too.

Unfortunately online dating sites are also home to many predators who are either out to get your money or to live out their sick and warped fantasies. The good news is that reputable dating sites are now screening for sex offenders. They also monitor messages and chats so that they can notice any shifty behaviors. Maybe a user is speaking to an abnormal amount of people at once, or sending links to spam sites.

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