Another Bad Date? How To Date And Dash

You know it’ll happen: the handsome, witty, educated online persona comes across as somewhat less handsome and witty (but hey, at least he’s still educated) when you meet in person, and he has you – disappointed – at hello.

You don’t want to be rude. You’d hate for your Prince Charming to take one look at you and take off. But you also don’t want your whole evening shot – you have a good book and a beer at home.

Here are a few tips to reduce the adverse impact of an instant un-attraction:

  1. A five-course meal at a fancy restaurant could take the rest of your life, or feel like it, if you’re not enjoying yourself. So make your first date a coffee date. Once it cools off, coffee doesn’t take that long to drink.
  2. Fake-make plans that will expedite the date. For example, if you plan to meet up at 4:00, let him know you’re meeting up with a friend to work out at 5:30.
  3. Ask a friend to call you about an hour into the date. I’m sure we all know how this trick is played.
  4. Bring cash. If he offers to pay, you’re beholden to his timeline (if he’s enjoying your company he may wait hours to pull out his wallet), and more importantly, you’ll feel obligated to linger since he was nice enough to buy your beer/coffee/five-course meal.
  5. You don’t have to announce to your date your lack of interest, but don’t leave the impression you’re wanting a second date if you’re definitely not. I’d hate for Prince Charming to lead me to believe he couldn’t wait to see me again and then vanish without a trace. Let him know you enjoyed meeting him and leave it at that.

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