eHarmony Review

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eHarmony is one of the most popular sites on the internet for dating, boasting 20 million online users. You’ve probably seen eHarmony ads all over your TV and other media outlets touting “deeply compatible” matches. They also boast privacy – no one can just browse your profile unless they are compatible. All communication is anonymous until both parties are ready to share personal information. Interestingly, eHarmony claims that on average, 542 members on the site get married ever day in the United States.

How eHarmony Works

What makes eHarmony unique in the online dating space is its Compatibility Matching System. By analyzing your answers to the in-depth and comprehensive compatibility questionnaire, eHarmony is able to match you up with members it thinks you are likely to have a long term relationship with. This is based on the 29 Dimensions that are critical to relationship success.

Describing the eHarmony questionnaire could take a book unto itself. If you spend the time to answer the questions honestly and accurately, the whole process will easily take more than thirty minutes. So keep that in mind, before you sign up. Questions asks you things like how you resolve problems, what you look for in a match, and lots and lots of questions about your own personality traits.

eHarmony questionnaire

But you aren’t done! Just when you finish, you find your profile is only half-way done. This is where the free form text boxes come in. Here you’ll answer questions about what qualities you look for in another person and standard questions like that. The profile is obviously the strength of this site, but you need to be serious about your answers. This will ensure that eHarmony will return you the best possible matches.

eHarmony does not include the search capabilities that you find on other online dating sites. This is because the only profiles you see are the ones that are matched with you based on your initial questionnaire answers. However, they do offer very interesting personality reports which you can read if your match is willing. You’ll also get access to your own personality profile as well. This is fun, because it gives you insights into who you are, and how other perceive you as well.

eHarmony really has no free features to speak of. While you get a list of matches, you won’t see any pictures of them until you pay. So if you want to use the site to find someone, you will definitely have to shell out some money. Keep this in mind before taking the time to join eHarmony and create your profile.

eHarmony profile

While eHarmony’s membership prices are relatively expensive, I think that’s good because it pretty much weeds out all the non-serious daters. There are a couple of different membership options. A basic member can view photos, request photos, and send/receive communication requests. This is for $59.99 per month, though you can sign up for longer plans at a somewhat reduced rate. A TotalConnect member can get a deeper personality profile, talk on the phone anonymously, and get their personal details verified. This is $44.95 for three months or $134.85 up front.

eHarmony Subscription options

Once you’ve paid your money, you’ll want to communicate with your matches. While you can use the standard eHarmony mail, another option is the eHarmony guided communication feature. When you find a match that you want to talk to, you can use this option to break the ice and get to know your match better. Basically it’s a set of pre-made questions you can select from to send to a prospective match. I know many people find starting that initial conversation to be extremely awkward, so this guided communication can actually be helpful to some.

eHarmony Pros

  • Very detailed personality profile
  • Deeper, better matches
  • More relevant matches, although less choices overall.

eHarmony Cons

  • More expensive then other dating sites.
  • Very little in the way of free features.
  • Requires some time to complete your entire profile.

If you are more interested in casual online dating, and seeing a wider variety of matches, then you may want to look elsewhere. Creating a good eHarmony profile takes time, and not everyone is willing to go through the entire process.

However, if you are looking for a deeper, long term relationship, then eHarmony could be a great fit. While eHarmony prices are high, it is hard not to recommend them because it does work well for its target market. It definitely has the brand recognition, and reputation to attract other serious members who are looking for the same things you are.

If you have some free time, why not give eHarmony a shot?


  1. Eharmony is based on an excellent idea but in my experience did not deliver as promised. Many of my matches were too old for me or overweight, and very few actually responded to communication. Additionally, for some unknown reason, after two months of membership eHarmony almost completely stopped sending me matches. Their site is wallpapered with ads, which bothered me because I was a paying member. If they handle their resources well this should be unnecessary.

    eHarmony isn’t creepy, just lame. The complex matching system doesn’t deliver well and prevents members from finding their own matches within the site. Furthermore, the match/communication sorting system is dysfunctional, saving messages that don’t interest me and making it difficult to see or respond to other messages. I canceled my expensive eHarmony membership early. It just wasn’t worth it.

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