vs eHarmony – On Which Site Will I Meet Mr. Right?

So now that you’ve decided to leave the real world and take off for internet space in your search for a partner, you need to decide which online dating site you’ll entrust to play matchmaker. You can be a paying customer, or you can join one of the free dating sites. This article will discuss your options if you’d like to pay to date; next week’s column will review some of the prime singles sites for online-daters on a budget.

The two most popular online dating sites for paying customers are and and I’ve had experiences with both. vs eHarmony Pros

  • With, you’re allowed full freedom in browsing profiles and contacting whomever you choose. While may suggest people it thinks you may like in its Daily Top 5, you are not limited to a certain number of people who meet a given “chemistry” criteria. does not presume to know who you’ll like.
  • It’s affordable. If you sign up for a six-month membership, for example, it can be as cheap as $15.99/month. There’s even a “meet somebody in six months or your money back” guarantee. Keep in mind, however, that this guarantee comes with strings attached; you have to prove you’re actively searching out a mate with a minimum number of monthly emails and responses. Sounds exhausting unless you enjoy a challenge that involves going on a date every night.
  • You can clearly see what people look like from the pictures. I’ve seen sites that somehow manage to reduce the picture quality to the point that your “blind date” is truly that—you have no idea how they’ll look in person from the fuzzy pictures on their profile. Cons

  • This is a pro in my mind, but could be a con for some – as aforementioned, doesn’t pick your matches. It’s up to you to do the dirty work and peruse profiles to narrow down your options. You need to know what you’re looking for, or you’ll be overwhelmed by the 5 million men/women online and you’ll try having a date with all of them. Totally inefficient.
  • You don’t know who’s a paying member and who’s not. Non-paying members of can’t do anything but wink. So somebody may wink at you, but then never respond to your email – because they can’t! Just assume if you don’t hear back from somebody, then he or she is a non-paying member who can’t send/receive emails and move on.

eHarmony Pros

  • eHarmony decides who you’ll be romantically attracted to according to your answers to a comprehensive personality profile it generates based on the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility.
  • Not sure how to make the best impression on your match? Then you can take advantage of the eHarmony Guided Communication option to help you break the ice, and get to know your matches better.
  • Geared towards people trying to find their soulmate, or at least a more long-term type relationship. According to a Harris Poll, 239 members get married each day which is amazing.

eHarmony Cons

  • It takes a long time to setup your profile. There are at least six or seven steps to work through before actually getting to correspond with an eHarmony potential match. They include sending multiple-choice questions to one another and sending “must-haves & don’t-wants” (pre-chosen lists of deal-makers and deal-breakers for your ideal partner). If you’re not truly serious about finding a match, you might not get through the process.
  • It’s more expensive than However they do have a free trial and they often have free communication weekends that you can take advantage of. vs eHarmony? is definitely the dating site that appeals to a wider dating audience. It also has the most members and tons of features that make the online dating experience easy. You’ll generally find lots of decent matches, and overall I’ve been pretty happy with the handful of dates I’ve found on Match.

eHarmony is for more serious daters who are looking to get married or to find a long-term lasting relationship with someone. If this fits what you’re looking for, then you should definitely give eHarmony a try.


  1. all the way! I met my fiance on it. He was the first person I talked to and it only took one date to know he was the one. Cheesy but true!

  2. Chris Smith says

    Somehow, I felt eHarmony would shaft folks.

    I’ll pick for the win!

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