Stop Chatting, Start Dating!!

So most of these online dating sites have the option to chat with prospective partners via an instant messaging program. But here’s an important online dating tip.


In my experience, the kind of guy who spends his entire day online chatting with women is not the type of guy I will generally go for. To me, chatting with strangers all day is not a particularly attractive habit, and from a purely practical perspective, the guy who keeps chatting you up when you’re online never seems to be the guy who’s interested in pinning down an actual time to meet in person.

But most importantly, chatting online with somebody you’ve never met is simply no substitute for a genuine connection. No matter how enjoyable the online chat. I’ve had some fantastic online chats with my aunt, my cousin, and my best female friend—but I don’t want to date them. (My best female friend is on the market, though, so comment here for a chance to win a date with her—or at least an online chat.)

During my first month of online dating, I used the instant messaging feature. I didn’t gain anything but a few pounds since the chats were cutting into my gym time, and I didn’t lose anything but time that would have been better spent at the gym. Unless online chatting is your end goal on your dating site of choice, turn off the instant messaging feature and fast forward toward a face-to-face connection!

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